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The topic to ponder this week is:
Dominants tend to be the “Alpha Male”, and that is why “Dom” is always spelled with a capital, while “sub” is always lowercase.
Now, it does seem to be something of an accepted convention, but does that make it true?

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that it isn't.  I will caveat that by saying that this is simply how I apply this to me.

In my stories, I do tend to follow the convention. If the submissive addresses their dominant with terms such as "Sir" or "Master", then I will generally capitalise for the sake of showing it is a D/s relationship I am describing. In my own relationships, however, I'm much less "formal".

I've never insisted that someone who has consented to submit to me calls me by any honorific; should they wish to bestow one upon me, that is up to them and they are free to use the appellation that best suits their own needs for the dynamic. Should that person ever write about me in a blog, or mention me in a tweet, then it's up to them how they refer to me and, whether or not they use capitalisation.

To me, typographic semantics do not matter in the slightest; they do not impinge upon the dynamic in any way. If a submissive addresses me as "sir" or "master" when talking to me, I don't enquire as to whether or not they spoke it with a capital letter, so why should how it is written matter? The words have exactly the same linguistic meaning whether or not the first letter is capitalised, so really it is the intent behind the term of address and the manner in which it is applied that is the important factor. Even having said that, it is only important within the context of that particular dynamic.

I admit that it is a useful device in erotic writing, but really that is all that it is, unless the participants want it to be anything more.



  1. Thank you for participating and sharing your thoughts.

    It is true. Once the words are spoken, it doesn't matter whether it's capitalsed or not.
    it's all about what the person is saying with it and meaning by it.



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