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TMI Tuesday: July 23, 2019

    TMI Tuesday
  1. Why are you single?
    Mainly just because I am. I’m between relationships. I’m between partners. I’m between friends with benefits. The person with whom I form my next relationship has yet to reveal themselves to me, nor I to them.

  2. Why are you married or in your current monogamous relationship?
    Given my answer to Q1, this one is clearly not applicable.

  3. Is polyamory something you want?
    It is something I have had in the past, and I enjoyed it. I would be open to it happening again in my future, but it’s not something I am currently seeking.

  4. What is the gender of your best friend?
    Female. The overwhelming majority of my friends are female.

  5. What do you think is the worst thing about being male?
    This may seem a bit of an unusual answer. There are things like my shorter life expectancy, the greater likelihood of succumbing to certain cancers or perhaps losing my battle with my mental health. Those are all things about being male that are less than great.  For me, however, it is something much deeper. For me it is the fact that because of the actions of a lot of men, almost every woman I meet sees me as a potential threat. The prevalence of toxic masculinity manifesting itself as male privilege means that to the vast majority of women, all men are potential abusers/rapists until they prove themselves to actually be one. Those of us who respect women are held in the same regard because there is no way for the woman in question to know whether she will get Jekyll or Hyde, and by the time the man reveals which he is, it is often too late for her to do anything about it.  This is not a “poor me” or “not all men” rant, it is simply a recognition of what women have to endure from men every single day.  The worst thing about being male, is that so many abuse that position.

Bonus: Why are you sexy?
Am I?  I can’t say that i particularly feel that I am. You would really have to ask someone who was attracted to me what it was they found sexy about me. For what it’s worth, I am open and honest, you see what you get. I try to be attentive and to pay attention. In the bedroom I am as focused on my partner’s pleasure as I am on my own. Maybe that makes me sexy? I don’t know.