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The Great Compartmentaliser

I am, generally speaking, quite open about all aspects of my life; be it my interests and hobbies, my mental health, my sex life, or my general views on life, the universe, and everything. Having said that I don’t necessarily share every aspect of me with absolutely everybody.
This is less apparent in everyday (“real”) life, although the things I share with clients won’t be the same as what I share with colleagues. There may be some overlap between what my colleagues know about me and what my friends and family know, but there again, there will be differences.  Even within my most intimate circle of friends and family, different people will know different things. Sometimes this will be deliberate on my part, but mostly it will come down to the fact that I haven’t told somebody something because it just hasn’t come up.
Online, things are much more divided. There is a PG/family friendly version where I discuss most things that are appropriate for a general audience; my hobbies, my views…

TMI Tuesday: April 9, 2019

TMI TuesdayDid you leave your last love for some one else or no one else?
My last love left me for someone else, I didn’t leave them.
Do you enjoy being alone? Yes or No
I don’t mind it on the whole, so I guess my answer would be “Yes”. I don’t enjoy being lonely, but that is a completely different thing.
Which of these reasons is most likely to spark your motivation for solitude:
a. It sparks my creativity
b. I enjoy the quiet
c. Being alone helps me get in touch with my spirituality
d. I value the privacy
e. I do not feel liked when I am around others
f. I cannot be my true self when I am around others
There’s a bit of an element of all of these in my answer. I do enjoy quiet and I value my privacy and having my own space. I’m not especially spiritual, but solitude and quiet can help bring a meditative inner peace and tranquillity, so I guess that’s the same thing in my perspective; it’s certainly good for my “soul”. There are times when I feel unliked and that I’m not able to “be me” when I’m…

All By Myself

I have always been something of a loner. As a child I was the eldest but with a six year gap between me and my nearest sibling. Add to that the fact that I lived in a remote part of Scotland and that my nearest neighbours were several miles away, so the only time I saw my friends was during school time, and I very quickly learned how to amuse myself (this was the 1970s/80s so there was no internet to keep me in touch and the fixed landline telephone in the corner of the living-room did not lend itself to private conversation, assuming I had permission to use it.
As an adult, and even in my relationships, I have always built in time for me. It has always been a hugely important part of my self-care routine (even when I wasn’t actually aware that I had one).
I go for walks; long walks, often 5-10km. At some point, nearly every day, I will pull on my boots and head out into the surrounding lanes and countryside, come sun, rain, hail or snow.  In some ways it is very much a form of meditat…