Sex and Lovers
- Who has the tendency to hold a grudge–you or your significant other?
I’ve never been one to hold grudges and neither, as far as I can recall, have my “significant others” (when I’ve had one) either. I guess I’ve either been lucky, or I just seem to attract partners who have a similar mindset/outlook on life that I do.
- The last time you had sex, was it meaningful (making love) or trivial (getting a much needed fuck)?
It was, without any question whatsoever, a much needed fuck. There is, however, nothing trivial about sex; even addressing a need is meaningful. It may not mean the same thing to the different people involved, but it always has meaning and there is nothing trivial about fucking out of need. The fact that it is needed makes it non-trivial.
- Do you have sex with your eyes open or closed?
Generally, I’m an eyes open kind of guy. I love to watch the changes in a partner’s facial expression and see how their body reacts to what I’m doing to it. That said, I’m not averse to closing my eyes, especially when my partner is doing things to me (e.g. sucking my cock). While the visual experience is arousing, sometimes not seeing heightens the anticipation and makes the other senses more intense.
- When arguing with a loved one, who is most likely to “hit below the belt*” first?
*attacking your partner’s character or something personal about them.
See Q.1 above. It’s not something I would do, and if I ever have, it was unintentional. I have, however, experienced being on the receiving end. In the heat of the moment, hurtful things can and do, sometimes, get said. It’s important that you address this when it happens and apologise fully and honestly.
- Is sex with your best friend a dream come true or the worst nightmare?
I’ve written about this before. In my opinion, a fuck-buddy/friend with benefits can evolve to become a “best friend”, however the reverse should almost certainly never happen. I have become extremely good friends with people that started of simply as casual sex partners, but I’ve never had sex with someone whom I already considered to be a friend. On the one hand, I can see how potentially the sex could be great, but I think the potential minuses more than cancel out any possible pluses.
I would say just be yourself and don’t try to be someone you’re not. People will always see through fakes eventually so spare yourself the embarrassment of being found out and just be honest.