The Meaning Of Life
- What makes you, you?
So many things: my personality; my likes and dislikes; my hungers, appetites and desires; my relationships; my environment; where I live; my community; my depression.
- Do you care more about doing the right thing or doing things right?
I think both are equally important. I would say doing the right thing is more important, but you should always strive to do everything you do to the best of your ability.
- What is sexual freedom? Do you have it?
To me it is the freedom to express my sexuality in my own terms and be respected for who I am. As a straight, white, male, I appreciate that I have the privileged position of being in a place where this is much easier than it is for many others. Ultimately it comes don to being able to be honest about who you are (not always possible in some communities), respect (again, not always easily gained) and consent.
- In your romantic relationships, is trust more important than love?
Generally, I would say yes. I would definitely want to trust someone that I was in a romantic/sexual relationship with. In fact, the trust would need to be there before that relationship even commenced. Love, on the other hand, is great if/when it develops, but is not requisite.
- Your life, is it more of a dream or a nightmare?
I tend to avoid “either/or” comparisons like this. My life is simply what it is; some bits of it are great, others not so much, and still there are other parts that I wish could be completely different. All of them, however, go in to making me the person I am. Change any one of these aspects and I wouldn’t be the “me” that is writing this post.
“Romantic Things” are somewhat subjective. It’s possible that I have done something for someone that, based on the context of the relationship I was in, they found romantic. Someone else might not think of it as so. Even I might not think of it as having romantic intent, it may just have been something I did, without even thinking about it, that the other person has interpreted as being romantic.
As for the last thing I did that was “deliberately romantic”, it’s been so long since I was last in that kind of relationship that I simply can’t remember.