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Food For Thought Friday - #F4TFridayThis week’s questions, were on the subject of hooking up. As, once again, it is a multi-part question, I have decided, once again, that the easiest way to answer is to break it down into its component strands.

Have you ever “hooked up” with someone just for sex?

I think it’s fair to say that if the answer to this one were “no”, this would be a pretty short post. Suffice to say that the answer is “yes” and that I have done so on a number of occasions.

How did you arrange it?

In every case, the hook-ups have come about, initially, through online contact; whether that be through actual hook-up sites like fabswingers or, more often than not, simply through that network that brings so many of us together, twitter.

The encounters have always followed a broadly similar pattern. First we follow each other, then we “get to know” each other online. At some point things will move to Direct Message and/or WhatsApp.

My work takes me around the country (particularly to London) and, where possible, I like to try and meet up with fellow bloggers/tweeters when I can. Most often, probably 90% of the time, this will be for a drink and a chat. Sometimes, however, it is for sex.

How did it make you feel?

Where the “get-togethers” have been arranged with sex in mind, this has always been discussed beforehand; we both know that when we meet, sex is very much on the cards. Of course, even though it’s been discussed, it isn’t a given. While there may be an element of expectation/anticipation, it certainly isn’t binding; either party can change their mind. The rules of consent still definitely apply.

I enjoy sex. The women I’ve hooked up with enjoy sex. There has been a certain “chemistry” from our online chats that have led us to believe that we would enjoy having sex with each other. The result is that I have never had any negative feelings about them. For me, these occasions have always been very enjoyable and a lot of fun. So far as I am aware, the women involved have never indicated that this was not the case.

Were there any consequences, good or bad, that arose from it?

I’ve never had a bad experience and, as such, I can safely say that the only consequences have been good. I have made some very good friends through these encounters; friendships that have remained even after the sex ended. I suspect this is as much down to the “community” that we are a part of, that makes us that bit more open and easy-going about such things. I’m certain not going to complain in any event.