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Don't Be A Dick

Penis ProjectToday I am going to talk to you about that burning topic, the GDPR, i.e. the General Dick Pic Regulation.

Yes, I know it’s a play on words, but actually there is one element that both the “real” version and my version of GDPR have in common, and that is consent.

Now I realise dick pics can be a bit of a prickly (pun intended) subject to get to grips with. Some women are quite amenable to receiving them, others prefer not to. That, of course, is how it should be; the world would be very boring if we were all the same.

But how do we know? How can we tell if our tumescent works of art will be appreciated by our intended recipient? I mean, it’s tricky, isn’t it?

Well, actually, no it fucking well isn’t!

Here’s a very simple clue, if you want to be 100% certain whether or not someone wants to see photos of your penis, try asking them first.  If they say “yes”, great, go ahead. If they say “no” then don’t do it.  This is one instance were you should absolutely, definitely ask for permission and not forgiveness.

At the end of the day, sending intimate photographs, while it can be enjoyable for both parties, is a sexual act. And like all sexual acts, the rules around consent apply.

If you send an unsolicited photo of an intimate body part to someone you are doing so without the consent of that person.

It really is that simple.

There is no “implied consent” or “It seemed like they were up for it”; unless they have explicitly told you that they want to receive such material, the only valid assumption you can make is that they don’t actually want it.

That doesn’t mean you have to wait for the other person to ask for such material. You are allowed to ask them if they would like it; but unless you receive a clear and unambiguous “yes” from the other person, don’t do it.

Now, I know what some of you may be thinking; you’re thinking: "you posted such images on your blog, some of which redirect to twitter, surely those are unsolicited too and that makes you a hypocrite".

Well, OK, let’s break that down. Yes, I have posted revealing images on my blog in the past; some of which were very explicit. But here’s the rub, I did not actively inflict those photos on anyone. There is a clear warning on my blog telling visitors of the adult nature of my content. If having been given these facts, the visitor makes an informed decision to continue to view my site, that is entirely up to them.

Similarly on twitter, the majority of my followers also follow my blog, so they are aware of the material I post. For those that don’t, again there is a warning on my profile. I actually have my sensitive content setting ticked in respect of the material I post. Ultimately though, if someone doesn’t like what I post via my feeds, they can choose not to follow me, mute me or block me.

The point is, I am not forcing anyone to read/view the material I post. I am not sending it directly to them via an @ or a DM. Everything I post, I post in the open, not as some sordid secret activity.

An unsolicited dick pic online is, quite simply, the equivalent of indecent exposure in real life. The effect on the victim (yes, that’s correct: victim) can be the same in both cases. If you wouldn’t do the latter, what on earth makes you think it is acceptable to do the former.

Or, to put it even more simply, just because you have a dick, you don’t have an excuse to act like one.