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Self Image

I’ll be the first to admit, I’m a bit of an exhibitionist; whenever the circumstances allow you'll find me sprawling bollock naked on a beach in the sun, I’m very much at ease. I’m fortunate that I’ve never really had what you might call body issues. I’m no Adonis, by any means; I’m a 47 year old, slightly balding, more than slightly greying, former rugby player who enjoyed the social side of his sport (rugby was strictly amateur in my playing days) probably even more than the sporting side, and one who, when forced into retirement through injury, promptly exchanged his 6-pack for a keg. That’s not to say there aren’t bits of me I wouldn’t change. I never did make it to 6′ (I’m, 5’9½ – and ask any guy, that ½” makes all the difference, and not just when it comes to height), I could probably do with shedding a few pounds (I’m about 196lbs – the UK version). And, since I’m a bloke, and I’m being honest, I wouldn’t complain if my cock was a little bit longer, but I digress.

TMI Tuesday: Shame

Tell us a sexual thing/fantasy would you never want your friends to know you like or have done? This is an oddly difficult one to answer. On the one hand, the online me is quite open and frank about sex and sexuality, the “real life” me is a very private person and in that respect, my “private” life stays private. I don’t really want my friends and family knowing any more about my particular sexual tastes than I want to know about theirs. Has anyone ever found an item of sexy underwear, a sex toy or perhaps a picture on your phone that embarrassed you? No. Do you have any fantasies you could never go through with because you think you would feel ashamed? No, but see the answer to the next question for a fuller explanation. Have you ever felt shame after a sexual experience? Simple answer to this one is, once again, “no”. The reason for this is, that in my way of thinking, there is nothing shameful about any sexual act that is legal and committed between two (or possibly more if

TMI Tuesday: June 13 2017

Would you take a course in advanced sex positions? Why? Probably not. I’m old enough to know enough about what I like and confident enough to make sure I can ask to find out what my partners like. I’ve always been reasonably adventurous, and I have a fairly good imagination; so if I’ve thought of it, I’ve probably tried it (unless it required zero-gravity). “Did you orgasm?”  Do you ask your sex partners this? W hy do you ask this question? There is the old adage about “If you have to ask a woman if she’s had an orgasm, she hasn’t”. Personally, I think that’s bollocks. Whereas male orgasms are generally fairly noticeable (although, not all; we don’t always ejaculate at orgasm), women’s orgasms can be much more subtle. With a new partner whose body and responses I’m not familiar with, I will ask. It’s part of the communication that’s all about learning what works for each other. Once I’m familiar with my partner’s response, I generally find I don’t need to ask. Was it good for you

Social Media v Mental Health

I have a bit of a love hate relationship with social media; in particular with Twitter . I also have depression. Like many people with mental health problems, I have found a wonderfully supportive community of people, many of them who are fighting their own demons, but who take the time out to utter a few words of encouragement because they can empathise because of their own circumstances. Even when I have been at my most out of love with Twitter, the community has always been there. There are people, far to numerous to mention individually, who have helped me through some of the darkest and lowest periods of my life, and I cannot express how grateful I am for their support. There are many, like me, who use Twitter in good times and bad; sharing both our joys and our sorrows. Sadly, that can sometimes be its biggest problem instead of its greatest strength. It’s a symptom of many mental health issues that, at their worst, you feel as if you are the only one in pain; that no o

Where Is This Going?

Where am I going with this? That, I have recently discovered, is not a straightforward question. In the context of this blog, given that I created it less than two months ago, recent is very recent indeed. I have, as some of you know, blogged before. Some of you will also be aware that I have a couple of photography blogs; one that is “family friendly/safe for work” and another that is decidedly less so. When I restarted this blog back in April, I had some clear ideas of what I intended to use it for. Things have happened in that short time that have made me reconsider. I’m still the same person, but I’m not entirely in the same place. None of those things are of any particular importance to anyone who isn’t me, so I’m not going to bore or burden you with them. They have, however, caused me to re-evaluate a few things in my life. If that sounds all very deep and mysterious, I can assure you that it most definitely not. So, what is this blog for? If you follow me on Twitter