This or That?
- Lights on or off?
I’m not averse to having the lights off; it can add a certain cosiness and extra intimacy. On the whole though, I like to engage all my senses during sex. I like to see my partner and watch their reactions. So if I had to choose, it would be lights on.
- Slow teasing or getting right to business?
A lot depends on the mood. There are sometimes when you are so randy you just want to rip each others clothes off and get down to it (sometimes even ripping each others clothes off is too much of a delay). Again though, as I said above, I’m very much about the senses and the sensations. A quickie is great if that’s all that time allows, but a long, slow build up that gets us both fully in the mood is hard to beat.
- Giver or receiver?
Kind of both; particularly if we’re talking about oral. I probably enjoy being on the receiving end of a blow-job every bit as much as every other man that has ever lived. I do thoroughly enjoy going down on a woman. Again, it’s the sensualist thing, and going down really does engage all the senses. My partners have always tended to approve wholeheartedly of my attentions in this area.
- Background noise or no?
Probably no. That said, I do enjoy the noises of sex: the moans and sighs of my partner, the sounds of our bodies in contact, the bed creaking and groaning beneath us. So, sex noises, yes, background noise, not so much.
- Top or bottom?
Very much depends on the mood and the “type” of sexual situation. Being of a Dominant disposition, I tend to find myself on top quite often, but I do enjoy being the one beneath too. If nothing else it means I can use my hands a bit more freely as I’m not relying on them for support.
- Private or public?
Maybe not fully in public, with actual people actually watching (although it’s not totally unknown), but outdoors where there is the possibility that someone might catch you in the act can add some extra excitement.
A gentlemen never shags and tells…